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Monday, June 24, 2013

Animal Magnatism

I can remember every pet that ever loved me. I didn't pay a dime for any of my special friends, nor was I ever looking for a pet, they just somehow showed up at different times of my life. Each one has left a special mark in my heart and earned a spot in my mind forever. My first pet came into my life around 1958.....Lucky, the stray Heinz 57 mutt. As I wrote in a previous blog, he wandered into my life as an injured, lost soul and warmed up some really cold nights for me. Great dog.  

Buffy was next. He actually was my grandfather's dog and I got to name him and pretended that he was mine. He was a yellow lab mix and a stray as well. He was a super-smart dog and had eyes that led straight to his sweet soul. At night, he was supposed to sleep in the basement, buy my grandfather and I would sneak him upstairs to sleep in the living room.  My grandmother pretended not to notice.

My next pet was quite a story. I read about him on the front page of the local paper in Mt. Vernon, NY. The Daily Argus, way back in 1973.  It was the day after Christmas and he was found during a snowstorm, wavering from side to side of a double yellow line on Lincoln Avenue in Pelham, NY. Not a location that would ensure a long, healthy life for a puppy. A woman picked him up and brought him to her home. She was unable to keep him and had hoped the story in the paper would find his rightful owner.  I guess the "rightful" owner ended up being me, since no one claimed the poor boy. Ta-da!!! Sammy entered my life.  He was my buddy through the first 13 years of marriage and the birth of my two sons.  Sammy was the best dog ever.  He was protective, loving, and had a deep sense of understanding.  He had this uncanny sense of knowing whenever I was sad.  There were too many times when he would curl up next to me and lick away tears as they fell from my eyes.  He would lay a paw on my shoulder, as if to say, "I'm here."  He had "those eyes" too.  Those soul-searching eyes. 

The pal who followed Sammy was named Auggie, named after Auggie Doggie, the cartoon.  He was a full-bred beagle that was given away because he had a physical defect - a bend in his tail.  No good for a breeder, or to use as a show dog, but let me tell you, he was quite the entertainer.  He kept the family laughing at his antics, which included getting loose, stealing food and leaving the evidence on my front lawn.  He showed up  with various items, but the most memorable were the peach can stuck on his snout, a half-defrosted roast beef, a raw turkey neck, and various dishes that, at one time, held cat food. He ate anything and everything.  He got "skunked" a couple of times and actually let someone enter our home one night without so much as a raised eye lid.  I think he may have snored through it all.

The adventure that followed Auggie was the well-renowned, chick-magnet, collegiate and well-traveled "Tank."  So named by my son.  I called him "Mommy's baby," or "Tankie."  Tank lived in more places than my kids had at the time.  He spent a semester at Cobbleskill Community College, he hung out at Fulgum's Bar, sat in the front seat of a Jeep Wrangler while cruising around town and flashed "those eyes" at all the girls.  He also loved to sleep under the covers in my bed.  A wonderful foot warmer and friend. Everyone in our little town knew him. Tank lived to the ripe old age of 14!  He was well cared for and well loved by many right up to his last day.  He lived a most charmed life.

Bogey, although not technically mine, earned a spot on my list.  He helped me find the man I am about to marry.  It's too long a story to go into, but suffice it to say, that I agreed to a first date based on the fact that he had a Golden Retriever.  I figured that anyone who has a Golden, can't be that bad  Fast forward to today, as I count down the days to our wedding.  Bogey, although named for the golf term, was a true tennis fan.  He LOVED tennis balls and had to have TWO thrown out to him in the yard.  Not one.....it had to be two.  

He was a lover and a super spoiled sweetheart. It ended up that Bogey and Tank were the same age.  They were both gently sent to the gate within months of each other.  It was a tough time and I well up with tears to remember.  I choose to  remember them running, jumping, wagging their tails and chasing tennis balls.  

I will end this blog entry with my last pet........a black and white tuxedo cat, named Lucy.  To be continued...




Sunday, June 23, 2013

Getting married again....

I remember a time when all I wanted was to get married, have two kids and live "happily ever after."  Well I did get married, at 18 years old, no less, and had my two kids.  Two great kids. Actually, they are men with families of their own now. The "happily ever after" didn't pan out, and the 38 year journey is one I wouldn't care to repeat, but the result of the union brought me more joy than words could ever express.  I don't want to come off sounding like the whole time being married was bad, because it wasn't. There were wonderful, happy moments of being new parents, watching them walk, talk and graduate high schools and colleges. Being young didn't factor into the divorce at all.  We were both very mature for our tender ages, but we started with nothing, grew into adults together, and then each  had different ideas of the definition of "happiness" was for that "ever after."

The time period during the divorce seemed endless, stressful, hateful, and utterly bitter-tasting.  I never thought I would make that same commitment again - ever.  Or as Taylor Swift said, "Never, ever, ever, ever."  However, a special individual dropped in my lap when I wasn't looking.  I was not especially thrilled at the timing, but I knew in my heart, that I would "never, ever, ever, ever" find a guy who would treat me like he did and make me feel how I waited a lifetime to feel - as though I was his #1.


This August, we are getting married.  After being together for 10 years, we have now decided to "make it legal."  Last week, we got our marriage license, yesterday, we picked out wedding bands.  We are getting closer and closer to the big day.  When the jeweler asked what we would like to have engraved on the rings, I knew immediately what I wanted mine to say -"#1."  With his wry sense of humor, my guy said, "I guess I'll  just have to be #2,: but of course, he ended up the same as me, since we both are each other's #1. 

For whoever reads this entry, I wish you the same feeling I was so fortunate to finally achieve - to find the person who makes you feel as if you are the most important thing in the universe to them.  It's a great feeling.